exclusivity vs. "love"

**solpacvoicis** · Young Komsomol Member Posts: 136 Join date: 2008-05-18

Shabazz Freeman wrote:

everyone says it takes a village but no one adheres to that

felt like i should jump in at that part..

you will be raised by a "village", so to speak, no matter what, right?

i mean...as long as you aren't thrown into the woods the day you are born and by some extraordinary means, survive, you are going to be interacting with people. Interacting with people as a child means learning. That means you are being raised by those around you, in that they are preparing you for your life ahead...whether or not this is to your benefit is a different matter.

so...family, in a communal sense, will always exist...

and there will always be at least one main figure that is guiding you, which, if you take the most stripped down family, the single parent, then...in that sense, family will always survive

the society in communism protecting the family will help to weed out the bad parents ^_^

all that said...i think committing is probably optimal, since it keeps complications out of the way...however, whatever is comfortable for all parties involved, is good, yeah?

**Zealot_Kommunizma** · Subject: Re: exclusivity vs. "love" Wed May 20, 2009 11:48 am

Thread necromancy, cause this one's interesting.

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**CoolKidX** · Subject: Re: exclusivity vs. "love" Wed May 20, 2009 3:14 pm

"I believe that you don't have to commit to have truly strong feelings."

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**Tyrong Kojy** · Subject: Re: exclusivity vs. "love" Wed May 20, 2009 6:04 pm

Quote:

no touching

Not even hugging? I hug all my friends!

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My friends,
My family,
Everything!
Her ambitions to dominate the universe are terrifying,
Evil beyond imagining.
I,
Tyrong Kojy,
The one whose power even the creator fears,
Will stop her.
Even if I have to destroy the universe to do it!"
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**Zealot_Kommunizma** · Subject: Re: exclusivity vs. "love" Wed May 20, 2009 8:35 pm

While it's true that comitment is not necesary to have strong feelings I do consider comitment important for my relationships.

As for the rest, my premise is simple: so long as all the parties involved in a relationshipare informed about all the implications of the relationship and are consenting, it's ok.

In my relationship I require a lot from the other party(ies) (in plural as my ideal relationship would be to have two female bisexuals that are couple as my partners) and it includes comitment understood as no flirting, no sexual intercourse with others, no sexual interest in others, no erotic interest in or contact with others, no greater intimacy with others than the one had with me, being willing to spend 1,440 minutes a day with me and unable to spend less than 960, no secrets. And all this not as something forced upon them or accepted forcibly and/or as part of a negotiation but because so they enjoy and want it, otherwise it's undesirable for me.

As for hugging and even kissing on the cheek, that's fine by me.

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